"The Untaught Truths: How to Thrive Beyond the School System"
"Do not confine your children to your own learning, for they were born in another time." - Chinese Proverb
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Have you ever felt like you’re living inside an invisible “box,” shaped by the rules and expectations of society? Maybe you’ve been told to get good grades, fit in with certain groups, or choose a “successful” career path. It’s easy to feel stuck in these boxes, but the truth is—you’re not here just to survive. You’re here to live an abundant life, one that’s rich in purpose, love, and personal growth. While school and college may give you the skills to hustle in the world and make money, they often miss out on some of the most important life lessons. Lessons that can help you thrive as a human being, not just for your own sake but for the collective good of humanity.
Believe it or not, your small actions have a ripple effect on the world around you because we’re all connected—part of one human consciousness. This newsletter explores some of the most vital skills schools and universities overlook, but ones that can change your life. Let’s dive into these life-changing lessons and see how they can help you grow into your most authentic, empowered self.
The World of Boxes: Breaking Free from Invisible Rules
We’re all born into a "culturescape"—a world filled with invisible rules, or as I like to call them, “boxes.” These boxes shape the way we think, act, and believe. Society often tells us what’s "normal" and what’s "acceptable," but have you ever stopped to ask yourself if these boxes are really meant for you?
A “box” is essentially a societal norm. Think about it—schools tell you that getting good grades is the only way to be successful. Families often have expectations about the career path you should follow. Even peer pressure can be its own box, pushing you to act a certain way just to fit in. But here’s the thing: life is way too big and full of possibilities to stay stuck in a box. Recognizing the boxes you’re living in is the first step to breaking free from them.
Activity: Take a moment to draw or describe a box you feel trapped in. What invisible walls keep you from expressing your true self?
The Magic of Unconditional Love: Loving Without Conditions
Let’s talk about love—real, unconditional love. Many of us grow up thinking that love is something you earn through achievements or good behavior. But unconditional love means loving someone (or yourself) without any strings attached. It’s not about how well you do in school, how you look, or what you can achieve. It’s about accepting and valuing yourself and others exactly as they are.
Why is this so important? Because unconditional love is the foundation of self-worth. When you love yourself without conditions, you stop being so hard on yourself for making mistakes. You also learn to treat others with the same kindness. Imagine a world where we all loved unconditionally—how much more compassionate and connected would we be?
Activity: Write a letter to yourself, expressing love without any conditions. Focus on who you are as a person, not on what you’ve achieved or failed to do.
The Goal is the Journey: Setting Meaningful Goals
We all set goals—whether it’s to get a degree, land a dream job, or buy a house. But have you ever thought about whether your goals truly matter to you, or if you’re just ticking off society’s checklist? There’s a difference between end goals and means goals. Means goals are short-term and often driven by external expectations (like getting a promotion or buying a car), while end goals are meaningful, long-term goals that lead to lasting happiness (like personal growth or contributing to your community).
The key to living a fulfilled life is to focus on end goals that resonate with your heart. Sure, getting a degree might help you in your career, but what’s your ultimate end goal? Is it to find joy, peace, and purpose? If so, keep that in mind as you set your goals.
Activity: Create a vision board for your end goals—fill it with images, words, and symbols that reflect your deepest desires for your life.
Breaking the Brules: Challenging the Bullsh*t Rules
What are Brules? They’re bullsh*t rules—societal norms that don’t necessarily serve your happiness. For example, one common Brule is, “You must get good grades to be successful.” Is that really true for everyone? Another Brule might be, “You need to work hard to succeed.” Sure, hard work can pay off, but does that mean you can’t find joy in the process?
The point is, we often live by these unwritten rules without even questioning them. Brules can limit your thinking and keep you stuck in a box. But when you start to challenge these rules, you open up new possibilities for yourself. Ask yourself, “Is this really true for me?” If not, let it go.
Activity: Make a list of rules you’ve been taught and question them. Are they serving you, or are they holding you back?
The Power of Beliefs: Changing Limiting Beliefs
Beliefs are powerful—they shape your reality. If you believe you’re not good enough, that belief will color everything you do. It’s what we call a limiting belief, and it can hold you back from reaching your full potential. But here’s the good news: beliefs are not set in stone. You can change them.
Start by identifying the limiting beliefs you have. Maybe it’s “I’m not good at math” or “I’ll never be successful.” Once you’ve identified these beliefs, challenge them. Ask yourself, “Is this really true?” Then flip it into an empowering belief, like “I can learn anything I put my mind to” or “Success comes from perseverance, not just talent.”
Activity: Write down all limiting beliefs you have in each area of your life, for example you want your dream job, but you think you are not skilled enough for that. Write down the reasons why you think that way, what emotions you feel when you think of that dream job and then change that into a positive affirmation rewrite it as an empowering belief. Feel the difference it makes!
Raising an All-Rounder: More Than Just Academics
In today’s world, we often place way too much emphasis on academic success. Sure, getting good grades is important, but it’s not the only thing that defines you. Being well-rounded means developing in all areas of life—academically, physically, emotionally, and creatively.
When we focus solely on academics, we miss out on the opportunity to explore our passions, hobbies, and talents. A well-rounded person knows how to balance school with other aspects of life, whether it’s playing a sport, learning a new skill, or simply taking care of their mental health. When was the last time, you learnt something new?
Activity: Create a personal development plan that includes goals for all areas of life—academic, physical, emotional, and creative. How can you grow in each of these areas?
Connected by Consciousness: The Power of Human Connection
At a deeper level, we are all connected through a shared consciousness. This means that our actions, thoughts, and feelings affect not only ourselves but also the people around us. Have you ever noticed how someone’s mood can influence yours? Or how a small act of kindness can ripple out and make a big difference?
Understanding this connection makes us more empathetic and compassionate. It reminds us that we’re all part of something bigger. We are connected through our shared human experiences, and our choices matter.
Activity: Try a guided meditation focused on connecting with others. Visualize the positive energy you’re sending out and imagine how it’s being received by others.
The Courage to Be Yourself: Embracing Authenticity
Being yourself in a world that’s constantly trying to make you someone else is a brave act. But the truth is, living authentically is the only way to truly find happiness and fulfillment. When you embrace your uniqueness, you attract the right people and opportunities into your life.
Sure, it can be scary to stand out, but think about how liberating it would be to let go of the fear of judgment and live fully as your true self. The world needs more people who are courageous enough to be themselves.
Activity: Write a story about yourself who finds the courage to be themselves. What challenges do you face if you live in your true authentic self, and how do you overcome them?
Creating Your Own Culturescape: Designing Your Life
Imagine if you could design your life based on your own values and beliefs, rather than the expectations of society. Guess what—you can! Creating your own culturescape means stepping outside the boxes you’ve been placed in and building a life that’s aligned with who you truly are.
To start designing your life, ask yourself: What are my core values? What do I want my day-to-day life to look like? Then take action to align your choices with these values. It’s about taking control of your own story.
Activity: Design your own culturescape. What does your ideal life look like? How do you want to spend your time, energy, and focus? Focus on what kind of thoughts you would think, what emotions you would feel, and what energy you would want to be in.
A New Way of Seeing the World: Your Journey Begins Now
You’ve made it through some powerful lessons—breaking free from boxes, challenging limiting beliefs, setting meaningful goals, and embracing your true self. Now, the real journey begins. These lessons aren’t just ideas; they’re tools you can use every day to create a life that’s authentic, fulfilling, and connected to the world around you.
Take small steps to apply what you’ve learned. Keep questioning, keep growing, and most importantly, keep being you. The world is waiting for your unique contribution.
Activity: Create a personal manifesto that outlines your values, goals, and beliefs. Let it be a guiding light as you move forward on your journey.
Final Thoughts: Your Journey Begins Now
Remember, you have the power to break free from societal expectations and live a life that’s true to you. Question the rules, set goals that matter, and always be kind to yourself. This journey is yours, and it’s just beginning.
Until next time, stay bold, stay curious, and most of all—stay authentically YOU!
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